Archive for July, 2010

Emotional Hurdles in Mediation: Setting Up Camp

By Laura Melton Tucker, July 22nd, 2010

In last month’s blog entry I talked about impasse in mediation, and how to go under, over or through it. But not all clients are willing to make the trek. When one side offers to settle, and the other won’t – even when his original terms are very nearly met, the clients may need to end the mediation and go before the magistrate. I call this intractability, “setting up camp.” Setting up camp in a mediation happens when one party finds a spot to focus his anger, frustration, or hurt, and prefers pouring energy into preserving that spot, rather than picking up and moving on. Here’s a mediation story to illustrate what that looks like.

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