The Gray Magic of Mediation

By Laura Melton Tucker, April 17th, 2017

As if under a spell, I haven’t posted a blog entry in two years. Spell, by the way, is defined by Miriam Webster as a “state of enchantment,’ which in my case is related to starting a psychotherapy practice. But, throughout this new professional venture, I have continued to mediate with couples, families and business […]

Call the Mediator!

By Laura Melton Tucker, May 17th, 2015

How many times have you observed a conflict-laden situation and thought, “where’s a mediator when we need one?!” Watching the oddly hostile interaction on a video posted to twitter that has now gone viral, between an exercise science senior at Kennesaw State University, and the department’s academic advisor who threatens to call security on him, gave me pause. These two need some mediation skills!

When You Represent Yourself In Court: Help for Pro Se Clients

By Laura Melton Tucker, December 19th, 2014

When Judge Hoover-Grinde is wearing her judicial robe, she explained, she cannot give legal advice to people appearing in her court. She can, however, provide pro se parties with information about what the law requires, answer procedural questions, point the way to proper forms, and speak openly and transparently about how the process works.

Resources For Divorcing Parents

By Laura Melton Tucker, September 2nd, 2014

During mediation, the groundwork can be laid for building cooperation between parents, but, too often, hurt, grief, anger, frustration and resentment become barriers to working cooperatively as co-parents. Getting beyond these feelings, by either working with a therapist, implementing new coping strategies or turning to the wisdom of experts, families can better navigate this difficult life passage. Here are three resources that may also be helpful:

From Cradle to College – Mediated Agreements that Last Over Time

By Laura Melton Tucker, May 14th, 2014

Today’s blog entry focuses on a question that often comes up during mediation: “What happens when our circumstances change and our parenting plan no longer fits our situation? Do we have to go back to court?” This excellent question speaks to the complicated and changing nature of families.

Steady On

By Laura Melton Tucker, February 13th, 2014

On an early morning errand today I kept my car at a distance behind a bicyclist straining for traction on the snow and ice covered road. I moved into another lane to pass him, and glanced back to see his face. He was older than I thought he would be, given his vigor as he stood to peddle up the hill. I admired his steadiness and ability to stay balanced…

The Season’s Unexpected Gifts

By Laura Melton Tucker, December 18th, 2013

As we navigate the potentially treacherous, conflict-rich holiday season, I offer up a personal story and a recent mediation moment that felt like a gift to all in the room. Both carry the same lesson, but the mediation story, the sweeter tale, I’ll save for the end…

To Autumn

By Laura Melton Tucker, September 7th, 2013

My mediator role has made me a connoisseur of process. The mediation process is also organic. I never know what clients will want to talk about, or how they’ll respond to the stress of speaking openly about painful topics. I assist them by providing the space for their talk, and by supporting them with calm energy and patient attentiveness.

There’s A Hole In That Bucket, Dear Liza…

By Laura Melton Tucker, July 9th, 2013

As I come up on five years of mediation work, some patterns are emerging. Many of my clients express the same concern prior to mediation: “It isn’t going to work! Our inability to communicate is what got us into this situation to begin with!” This month’s blog responds to this frequent statement of doubt and fear.

Positive Groundlessness – Finding the Empty Space in Conflict

By Laura Melton Tucker, April 14th, 2013

I saw on facebook today: “Remove all the space within the atoms making up the human body and every person who has ever lived would fit inside a basketball.” If this is true (and we know everything we read on facebook is true!;) that’s a lot of empty space…and empty space is terrifying. I’ve observed empty space in conversations and resisted the temptation to fill in with noise. Sitting with emptiness – as hard as that is – can be a good thing in a difficult conversation.

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